Susie’s Thoughts

I have a couple of questions to answer, but since I’m on vacation I took some time off the computer. I don’t remember anymore who was the first asking for advice, so I apologize if I don’t get this in the right order.

I think the first question I got was about how to move the profile and how to change the look of the blogroll. I will get back with a tutorial a little later today, but in the meantime you can check out one of my previous post about “Styling your profile info”.

TiQbOy wanted to know how to get started with creating your own template. There are plenty of sites that show how to create a template in Photoshop, I haven’t found any for GIMP, so I will create a flash tutorial showing how later.
Some web layout tutorials for Photoshop:

• SweDesignz / Simple Web Page
• SweDesignz / Clean Web page
• Photoshopsupport.com / Photoshop Web Template — Web Site Design Tutorial
• Photoshopsupport.com / Blog template design tips

Doug wanted to know how to transfer critical information from one template to another without learning how to design a template himself. My answer for that is, that you still need to know what the different parts of the code does, and then copy and paste the code you want to transfer into the new template. It can be a little bit tricky to get it right, but that’s the only way to do it.

Waybar wanted to know if it’s possible to insert a Gritwire deskbar into a b2evolution template. I have signed up for Gritwire and also installed b2evolution onto my server, but it will still take a while before I can answer that question. I need to look deeper into both Gritwire and b2evolution before I know if it’s possible to get them working together.

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I thought I would be writing more once my vacation started, but instead I felt I needed some time completely away from the computer. The only thing really important I’ve done during the past week is training the dog. He’s 9 months old and in dog-years that mean he’s a teenager. I guess everyone that has been around a while knows how a teenaged boy acts… all he thinks about is food, girls and fighting with the other guys around…

When not training the dog I’ve been reading Stephanie Plum novels. Usually everything I read in English is computer related… Stephanie Plum is the exception. The good thing with Janet Evanovich’s novels is that they are fun and “light” enough to read when I want to turn my brain off. I also have to admit that the situation Stephanie has with those two men, the good-looking cop and the sexy and dangerous bounty-hunter, is intriguing. I want to know whom she will eventually choose… well, I guess I already know that she will choose the cop, that’s how it always goes in these kinds of stories and maybe also in real life, but I always keep hoping they would go for the dangerous guys…

I don’t know where the attraction is with those bad, dangerous guys. One could think that it would be because I want to be the one capturing and taming them, but they wouldn’t be any fun if they where tamed, so I guess that’s not it. My life and my ideals are all peaceful and non-violent, but still I would sell my soul for a guy like Wesley Snipes in the Blade or Keanu Reeves in the Matrix.

What is it with those strong, quite men that love you for a night and then leave you to save the world? People say that men are afraid of commitment and women strive for commitment, but yet the men we love in books and movies are not the type that will ever be ready to commit… and we know that, that’s why we love them. So sometimes I wonder if it’s a myth that women want commitment, maybe the men that aren’t the Blade or Neo want us to believe we want commitment, so that we would want them instead of going for the heroes…

When people are referred to my blog through Google the most common keywords they use are “a sexy picture”. That’s not a surprise for me because I’ve been using the Internet for a really long time and still remember what happened when searching for free photos on Google or Altavista… the pictures where only free from clothing and not what I was looking for. That’s changed now, search for free photos and you get free stock photos… search for sexy pictures and you get my version of what is sexy

Next on the list of most popular keywords is “playing hard to get - how to play hard to get - how do you know when they are playing hard to get”. First I didn’t know what to think about it, because I don’t really like using the word “playing” when it comes to relationships. With “playing” I mean playing with someone’s emotions or pretending to be something you are not or feel something you don’t feel. I can understand the need to protect one’s feelings, but is playing hard to get about that?

I like computer games, especially strategy and role playing games, but at the “playing hard”- game I’m totally clueless. If I’ve understood it correctly, both men and women should play hard to get. How does that work? If no one is returning any calls and always is busy when asked for a date, how do you ever get together? How can you tell the difference when someone is playing hard to get and when they really aren’t interested? I would probably just think that the guy isn’t interested and move on.

On the other hand, a guy that’s always there, following you like a puppy begging for attention, isn’t what I look for either. It’s so annoying when you’re busy working and get an email once in an hour asking why you haven’t answered the first one yet. Or when you can’t answer the phone because you’re in the middle of a lesson and you get 10 sms messages asking if you’re angry or something, since you’re not answering the phone. Being the whole world for someone sounds nice in a poem or a romantic song, but being that in the real world is just too much to handle.

I guess the best thing, instead of playing hard to get, is to have a healthy life. Never build your whole world around one person, build self-esteem instead and start doing things you like to do with friends or alone. A relationship is the frosting on a cake that tastes really good even without frosting… meaning that it’s important to have a good life even if there wouldn’t be a special someone around and when we find that special someone, a really good life gets that special something that makes it even better. I really do hope those of you looking for advice on how to play hard to get find some good advice on how to create a good life instead…