Hawk dedicated a song to all ladies who reads his blog, and that got me thinking about what a lady really is. I don’t think I’m a lady, but I’m not sure. Here’s a few facts of me, some which I think could fit what I think a lady is and some that isn’t that lady-like.
I make my own soap because I love the feeling of being cleaned by home-made soap. My own soap is almost the only beauty product I use. Sometimes I buy make-up and lotions, but I always forget to use them.
I don’t use jewelry or glitter, because I feel there is no need for decorations. Once in a while I put on both make-up and glitter and try to behave in a lady-like manner… just because a woman is supposed to. The picture above is three years old and from one of those occasions.
There are very few photos of me because I swear the camera steals a piece of my soul each time and it’s never the most flattering piece.
I almost never drink, but I can drink a shot of vodka straight and all in one sip. More than once have I had to prove this and that always leads me into trouble.
I don’t use foul language even though I know all the words in the book. I think that cussing and swearing only shows that you have nothing to say, and I usually only talk when I have something to say.
All my ex’s tells me I’m a cold-hearted woman because I don’t whine or weep. When things don’t go my way I may throw a plate at you instead. I suspect they think I’m cold-hearted because I dared to leave them.
I hate shopping. I usually try to shop online and get more things at once so that I don’t have to deal with the necessity of shopping too often.
Cleaning the house is boring, house’s should understand to clean themselves. I do it because I have to, but I’m not organized or effective.
If I could decide, I would walk bare-feet all the time. I only wear socks when it’s so cold outside I have to. I only own 4 pairs of high-heeled shoes and I only wear those a couple of times a year.
I always build my own computers, I want to know what each part in the computer does and why it’s there. If a gadget in my house breaks I first check if I can fix it myself before I ask for help. I also know how to put on new tires on a car.
I used to be a feminist and burned my bra, I’m still a feminist but I had to change my mind on the bra thing because of gravity and the laws of nature.
When I got married I had jeans and a t-shirt and after the ceremony we got drunk on vodka, I can’t remember the rest of the night, I just know what people told me.
I don’t cry often, but if I do I never have a hankie handy. More than once have I had to be saved by a real lady handing me one of hers.
I could probably continue forever with this list, but the more I write the less of a lady I seem to be so I will stop now and ask you; “What do you think a Lady is?”
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November 9th, 2007 at 4:58 pm
Quite a revealing disclosure here Susie.
Regarding my post, a few points for clarification if I may.
The song was dedicated to all ladies and free-spirited woman who are fans. I’m laughing while writing here because I do possess a marginal level of gray matter to recognize that women have different perspectives about who they are.
You must bear in mind that my southern upbringing lends itself to view all women as ladies. Now, whether you are Sister Mary Elizabeth, Katherine Zita Jones, Hillary Clinton (ughh), Daisy Duke, or a Bohemian free-spirit, a Country Girl or other, you are still ladies!
Diversity is what makes our world interesting. It would be pretyy dang boring if you (women/ladies) were all the same.
So, please do not think ill of me if I am forgetful and refer to all females as ladies! It’s just a southern thang!
This was a great read and thanks for the tag.
Have a good one!
November 9th, 2007 at 5:17 pm
I assumed all your lady readers were your fans, or did you mean all the ladies that are fans of country boys?
My son-in-law is from Louisiana and he used to call me ma’am. I never got used to it and made him stop. If I have to choose I think lady is better than ma’am.
It would be pretty boring if all men were alike too…
Free-spirited woman sounds good though, even though it’s a little too much to type out everytime you have to address a female person… so I’ll be ok with the word lady
November 9th, 2007 at 5:24 pm
I don’t have enough time to be proper, genteel, and refined. To put on airs in order to appear more respectable in the eyes of sophisticates offers nothing but a cheap facade.
If living your life without allowing society to dictate how I should behave, dress, or talk means I am not a lady, then I guess that’s something I will just have to live with.
November 9th, 2007 at 5:36 pm
i was going to tag you, today. but, after reading that post…no reason. you sound like you are an awesome person! it’s funny because, my husband thinks i am somewhat of a cold person…i rarely, if ever, cry. i’d much rather yell and scream. that makes me much happier, even if i do have a scratchy throat, afterwards!
that is a beautiful pic!
take care!
November 9th, 2007 at 5:37 pm
AntiBarie, you are right about the waste of time it is to try to put up a facade. On the other hand, when I was young I used a lot of energy to prove I’m not a lady, just because I wanted to stir things up and cause a discussion.
I don’t want to put a lot of energy in trying to be different anymore. If I have to represent my school and look proper and business like, I just put on some decent clothes and wear make-up and behave well all night. I don’t have to represent my school that often and it would require a lot more effort to make a point.
I guess one of the good things with getting older is that when you really have to fight something you do, but some fights aren’t worth it.
November 9th, 2007 at 5:56 pm
However you may want to interpret it up to you! LOL!
I am in total agreement with Dawn! Women should be comfortable within their own skins and be proud of who and what they are. It matters not to me. Just like I am a bit adversarial and in people’s face at times, this is who I am.
Putting on airs or being something which you are not, is not a good thing. Be yourself regardless what others may think. This is what makes each of us unique. Our individualism and showing the world who we really are is what’s most important.
Well said Dawn and everyone.
As I close this last comment, I just want to say, I accept people for who and what they are. This is the best approach. If you can’t accept the honesty of how individuals express themselves, then, I guess you are a bit thick-headed.
Hmmm, if truth be told, I’m about as non-conforming and rebellious as one can get. Not so much do I follow what people consider normal. I am anything but! Anyhow, if you can define what normal exactly looks like, I would be willing to submit it to Webster. Enough said.
Everyone have a great weekend!
Later….
November 9th, 2007 at 6:02 pm
suchsimplepleasures, isn’t it funny how men complain about how they don’t like crying and whining women, but then they call you cold if your’e not crying! To me a person that can yell and scream when angry is a lot warmer with a lot more feelings than someone crying and whining.
Thanks for the compliment on the photo. I had a lot of trouble getting the dogs to behave and sit still. If you look closely you’ll see that one of them is chewing on the others year.
November 9th, 2007 at 8:15 pm
hey susie
nice pic. Nice those dogs you got there. Those are labrador retriever right?
November 9th, 2007 at 8:27 pm
We love the dogs too even though they are a pain sometimes. They are mixed breed, mostly labrador retriever, but also collie and Finnish hound. The different breeds make them at times difficult to handle, but by training them and showing them who’s the boss we have gotten them to listen to us at least most of the time. The Finnish hound is a hunting dog, and that is the labrador too, so they are high energy dogs.
November 10th, 2007 at 2:11 am
A lady is a female of the species who carries herself with dignity and grace. She shows consideration for others and looks for the best in everyone. She speaks with purpose and with proper and dignified language.
Unfortunately, many women today…especially young women…forget that the lack of obscene language offends no one.
November 10th, 2007 at 6:04 am
You didn’t happen to see Fight Club, did you? There’s a bit in there about how the main character sells soap he makes himself.
November 10th, 2007 at 8:42 am
Lee, I too think that the language some young women (and men too) use today is awful. The good thing is that it seems to be something temporary. In high school their language is unbearable, but when they come to college they know to limit themselves.
Delmer, I’ve seen Fight Club, but I don’t remember that part at all. Making soap is an interesting process, it amazes my youngest daughter every time. She thinks it’s amazing that you can get soap out of fat just by adding some lye.
November 10th, 2007 at 11:37 pm
I looked up the definition of lady, ‘a woman of refinement’ and I sort of like that. I have to say I adore glitter and infact have recently bought purple glitter mascara…which will probably cause me to go blind at some point, but until then I’ll have sparkles where I shouldn’t normally. *l* Loved you post.
November 11th, 2007 at 8:55 am
missharleyquinn, it does sound fun to sparkle where you normally shouldn’t, I might have to try that. Well, I wear contact lenses so I have to find something else than mascara that sparkles. I like the definition ‘a woman of refinement’ too. Merriam-Webster says a lady is ‘a woman of refinement and gentle manners’. I like the first part, but I don’t know about the gentle manners… I don’t know if throwing things is considered gentle manners.
November 12th, 2007 at 12:14 am
Norton and Pitt go dumpster diving at a hospital or clinic that does liposuction. They collect the fat from the lipo procedures and make soap out of it. (Or something like that … as you recall, it was an odd movie.)
November 12th, 2007 at 6:42 am
Delmer, I couldn’t remember anything of the soap making so I started to question whether I had ever seen the movie. Well, I checked it out and I have seen it, but it’s one of those movies I watched while working on something else. I tend to forget them and miss half of the plot.